Dear Queenie,
My mother always made me send birthday cards to all our relatives, because most of them always remember my birthday, but there is one who never sends me a card and I have decided to stop sending her any more cards.
Queenie, do you think this makes sense, or am I just being spiteful?—Greeting card Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
If this is a much older relative – a grandparent, for example – or someone with health issues that might interfere with their sending cards, do not stop sending them cards. Otherwise, you have no obligation to send them anything.
However, sending the cards is a small matter that makes your mother happy, so you might want to continue doing it for her sake.
