Dear Queenie,
I received a wedding invitation from my cousin the other day with my last name (my married name) spelled wrong. I’d like to tell her the correct spelling so the place card at the wedding reception will have it right and so she won’t make this mistake again in the future.
Queenie, how can I do this without insulting her?—Get my name right, please
Dear Right name,
Your cousin may have had help sending out the invitations and may not have been the one who made this mistake. However, the same helper may be also in charge of the place cards, so to prevent a repeat of the error you have several options. You could call your cousin and ask her about the mistake. Or you could just make sure your name is spelled correctly on the RSVP card (cross out the wrong spelling and write in the correct name, if necessary). As a bonus, this will give you added incentive to return the RSVP card promptly.
