Fed-up step-parent

Dear Queenie,

  My adult stepson lives with us. He does not have a job so he can’t pay rent and he expects us to give him money to pay for everything he needs and wants. He won’t even try to get a job, but if we throw him out he will be living on the street.

  Queenie, what can we do?—Fed-up step-parent


Dear Step-parent,

  Your stepson will never learn (or be willing) to take responsibility for himself as long as he can rely on others to take care of him.

  Insist that he go with you and your spouse for professional counselling to help the two of you learn how to teach him to grow up and fend for himself, and to insist that he do so – and to help him learn to stand on his own.