Left out

Dear Queenie,

  Sometimes when I host a family get-together I also invite some close friends. Recently I found out that some of my family have been inviting these same friends for occasions that I am not included in.

  Queenie, I’m glad that they are getting along so well, but shouldn’t they invite me too?—Left out

 

Dear Left out,

  Probably your relatives and these friends have some common interest that you do not share with them, so they do not think you would wish to be included in related occasions. Spend whatever time you can with all of them, separately and/or together, and do not waste time or energy on feeling excluded when they get together without you.