Dear Queenie,
I have been married for many years to a good man who works hard and provides for his family very well.
I work too. I have a good job that pays well, and when I go home I take care of the house and our three children, but at the end of the day I am exhausted and all I want is to get a good night’s sleep, but that’s when my husband comes to me wanting to have sex and it’s all I can do to manage to accommodate him and then he complains because I’m not exciting enough.
Queenie, how can I make him understand?—Exhausted wife
Dear Wife,
Sex in marriage should be like the frosting on a cake, which makes a good thing even better. But frosting without cake, while sweet, is not really very satisfying.
You and your husband should try to find a way to satisfy his desires without exhausting you. Perhaps he could help you more around the house and with the children. If he is a little more tired at the end of the day, he might be a little less interested in the “frosting” and if you are a little less exhausted you might be a little more interested in it.
Show him this column and see how he reacts.
