Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend keeps asking me to prove I love him by making a baby for him. I don’t want to lose him, but I think I’m still too young to be a mother. He promises to take care of me and the baby and says we’ll get married when I finish high school.
Queenie, what will I do if I lose him? What if he stays and I get pregnant by accident? What if I make a baby for him and he leaves the both of us? Please tell me what to do.—Confused Teenager
Dear Teenager,
You do not seem all that confused to me – you are asking me all the questions I would ask you in response to your letter.
So – if you lose him because you refuse to make a baby for him, you will be free to find a better boyfriend, one who will not make such unreasonable demands on you.
If he stays – better yet, let us say “if you stay with him!” – learn all you can about contraception. Talk first to your family doctor about it and then go to a gynaecologist/obstetrician to learn more, and then take full charge of all contraceptive measures to make sure you do not get pregnant by accident. Most especially, do not rely on condoms – all it takes is a pinprick in one of them to make a baby!
And the answer to your third question is: DO NOT MAKE A BABY FOR HIM!!! A man who wants his woman to make a baby just to “prove she loves him” will probably not be a good father, and when you do have children you will want them to have the best father in the world.
