Dear Queenie,
I met up with a woman I knew in high school one night when I was out with some friends. She gave me her number when I asked for it and said I should call her and we could plan to get together and talk about old times, but every time I call she is busy doing something and says I should call back later, or she has something scheduled for the night I suggest going out.
If I don’t reach her when I call she never calls back, even though I leave a message with my number, and she hasn’t once called me first, even though I know she has my number because I give it to her every time I leave a message.
Queenie, am I just wasting my time?—Confused
Dear Confused,
I would say so. My guess is that she was just making polite conversation when she talked about “getting together and talking about old times.”
You have made the first move (and the second, third, fourth ...). Now leave it up to her to call you – but do not stay by the phone holding your breath waiting for her call.
