Dear Queenie,
I put on a lot of weight when I was pregnant, but recently I started exercising and watching my diet and I have lost most of it.
The problem is my husband. He never paid much attention to me, especially after I got fat, and now he is convinced that my losing all that weight means I must be having an affair. He also says I am stupid if I disagree with him about anything, even when I can prove that he is wrong about something.
Queenie, what’s wrong with him? Or is something wrong with me for putting up with him?—Angry wife
Dear Angry,
What’s wrong with him is that he feels insecure and takes it out on you. The only thing wrong with you is that you put up with this kind of abuse.
Professional counselling, especially if you can persuade him to go with you, will help you figure out whether your marriage can be patched up, if it even should be, and if not, how to go about ending it as amicably as possible.
