My ex-husband has married the woman he had an affair with while we were still married, and she won’t let him have anything to do with me unless she is there too, which means he can’t even visit our daughter unless she comes along. She won’t even let me talk to him on the phone about our daughter unless she listens in.
Queenie, do I have to put up with all this?—Angry ex-wife
Your ex-husband’s new wife knows from experience just how capable he is of cheating on his wife.
You are not wrong to be annoyed, but the fact is that this woman is now your daughter’s stepmother and will be involved in raising her, so if you do not put up with the woman’s behaviour your daughter will be the worst loser.
Try to put up with her – as civilly as you can manage.