Dear Queenie,
When you go out with someone, who is supposed to pay? Like if you go to the theatre, who buys the tickets, or at a restaurant who picks up the bill?—Dating Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
The person who issued the invitation for the occasion, however informally, should expect to pay, unless it is understood from the outset that it is to be a “Dutch treat” or if the outing is one in a long string of occasions in which the participants take turns paying.
Dear Queenie,
A while after my boyfriend and I broke up I started dating again, nothing serious and with more than one guy.
Now all of a sudden my ex gets jealous and has a fit whenever I go out with anyone, but he’s not interested in getting back together with me, not that I would want it after the way he treated me.
Queenie, what’s with him? He doesn’t want me, but he doesn’t want me to see anyone else.—Hassled
Dear Queenie,
I am pregnant with my first child and my best friend is planning a baby shower for me. I heard that she is not only inviting all our girl-friends and -relatives, but also some men.
Queenie, is this proper?—Baby Etty Ket
Dear Queenie,
It’s all very well for you to advise someone to get professional counselling, but how do you find a counsellor on this small island? And if you do find someone, how do you know how well qualified they are?—Need to know
Dear Queenie,
There is this couple my husband and I have been friends with for a while. The wife and I are very close friends, the husbands not so much so.
Recently when they were leaving our house after an evening together my husband and the wife happened to walk out to the car ahead of me and the husband and suddenly he grabbed me and hugged me very tight with his hand on my backside and I had to push him away very hard. He just laughed and said he wanted to see what I would do.
We haven’t seen them since and I haven’t said anything to my husband about it.
Queenie, how should I handle this? I do not want to spoil my friendship with the wife.—Flustered
