Dear Queenie,
My wife and I worked hard for many years and limited our spending so we could save up for retirement. Now we are out of debt, our house is paid for and we can afford some luxuries that we couldn’t up to now, but some of our friends are accusing us of showing off and bragging when we talk about what we have been doing.
Queenie, are they right or are they just jealous of us?—Living it up
Dear Living,
Maybe a little of both. Try not talking about your new extravagances unless your friends bring up the subject.
Dear Queenie,
A guy I work with is having an affair with a married woman we both work with. This makes things very uncomfortable around the workplace because of the way they behave with each other.
Queenie, should I say something to one of them, or to our boss, or should I tell his wife or her husband?—Disgusted colleague
Dear Disgusted,
If everyone else in the workplace knows, your boss probably does too and if it is affecting everyone’s work performance it is up to him to speak to the two adulterers about that aspect of their behaviour.
As for the wife and husband, one or both of them may already know. MYOB!
Dear Queenie,
I’m pregnant and I’m watching my weight carefully because I can’t do much exercising. I look really huge, but my doctor says that’s because I’m so short and that really I’m doing just fine.
The thing is, people, including especially my mother-in-law, are always telling me I’m getting too big and how I must be eating too much.
Queenie, what’s a polite way to respond to such comments?—Pregnant, not fat
Dear Pregnant,
Why be polite to people who are rude to you?
Tell the ones who do not know you are pregnant, “I’m not fat, I’m pregnant.” Tell the ones who do know, “My doctor says I’m doing just fine. Would you like his phone number so you can argue with him?”
Dear Queenie,
There’s this guy I really like. He’s good-looking and friendly and smart and everyone likes him. My problem is that he’s shorter than I am and I would feel funny going out with him and having people staring at us. And the idea of leaning down to kiss him instead of reaching up kind of freaks me out.
Queenie, am I being too picky?—Tall girl
Dear Tall girl,
I think you are. What is more important to you – how a man looks or how he treats you? Think carefully before you answer.
Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I have been going together for a couple of years and I have proposed to her but she won’t say “yes.” I think the reason is that she has known some abusive men and is afraid of getting trapped. In fact, she want us to see each other less often.
I get lonely and want to go out for lunch or coffee with other women just to have someone to talk to but she says that’s not okay because we are supposed to be exclusive to each other.
Queenie, am I being unreasonable or is she?—Lonesome lover
Dear Lonesome,
Your girlfriend does not seem committed to you, but seems to want you to be committed to her. This does not seem fair to me, but if you want to cater to her feelings, it would be a good idea to forget about other female companionship and stick to going out with only your male friends.
However, if it is marriage you want, you may have to find another prospective mate.
