Dear Queenie,

  I’ve been dating a guy who is only here a couple of weeks a month. He calls and texts all the time and says how much he misses me when he is away, and he often asks me how I feel about him.

  I found out that he’s been seeing another woman on another island where he goes for his job and when I asked him about her he said he liked her a lot but she lives too far away for more than occasional dates.

  I said he wasn’t being fair to either of us and he said he’s not married to either of us and he will continue to call me and see me until I tell him not to.

  Queenie, should I go on dating him?—Undecided

Dear Undecided,

  I am assuming this man is not married to some woman other than you and the other woman you mention, so as a single man he is free to call and date as many women as he chooses until he makes a commitment to one of them.

  It would seem this guy is the kind of man who thrives on many women’s attention. If you are willing to accept this, go on dating him. If you are not, demand a clear, firm commitment from him and if he is not willing to make such a commitment – and keep it! – dump him.

Dear Queenie,

  I have a friend who always interrupts when I am saying something or telling a story. I would tell her to shut up and let me talk, but I don’t want to be rude and I don’t want to annoy my other friends who are her friends too.

  Queenie, what do you suggest?—Fed-up friend

Dear Fed-up friend,

  Are you the only one she does this to?

  If she does it to everyone, you can ask her (as politely as you can manage) to be quiet and let you or whoever is talking finish what you or they are saying.

  But if it is just you, you might consider whether you talk too much and/or take too long to say whatever it is you are saying.

Dear Queenie,

  I thought my girlfriend who lives with me might be cheating on me, but when I tried to talk to her about it she got mad at me for being so suspicious, so I “accidentally” left my cell phone turned on on recording one morning when I went to work and sure enough, as soon as I was gone she called this other man and from all what she said I know she is having sex with him, so now I have proof she is cheating on me.

  I’m not proud of what I did and I know she’ll be mad at me, but now I know I was right.

  Queenie, what do I do next?—Angry boyfriend

Dear Angry boyfriend,

  Your girlfriend will not stop cheating, and will continue to blame you for being suspicious – and for getting proof of your suspicions. Show her the proof, tell her it is over between you, give her a deadline for moving out and do not let her talk you out of it.

Dear Queenie,

  My ex-husband and I were together for almost 20 years before we got divorced a couple of years ago. We have 2 children and he isn’t a very good father either, but lately he has been coming by to see us and once when I was out he stayed late until I came home and then we slept together because I don’t have a spare bedroom.

  Now he comes around every day and wants to stay all night, and he has asked me to marry him again. I said “no” but he keeps asking.

  Queenie, what can I do?—Ex-wife

Dear Ex-wife,

  Do not sleep with him again. When he visits, insist that he leave as soon as the children have gone to bed, or even before that.

  And if he wants to see the children when you are going to be out, drop them off at his place and pick them up on your way home, or hire a babysitter if you are going to be out late and make sure the sitter sends him home when the children go to bed.