Dear Queenie,
One of my relatives molested me when I was in my teens. I never told anyone anything about it and after a while they moved away so I didn’t have to see him anymore. When he retired he and his wife moved back here, but I haven’t seen him since they came back.
Queenie, he died recently and I don’t want to go to his funeral to pay my respects because I have no respect for him, but what will I say to his family if I do not attend?—Disgusted
Dear Disgusted,
You can tell them you will not attend because you are not feeling well. Or you can go, and tell his family you sympathise with them for their loss, without letting them know how you felt about him.
