Dear Queenie,
My fiancée and I are going to get married later this year, but there is something that has me worried. She is not a good housekeeper – actually a very bad one – and I like a neat, clean place to live in.
I don’t want to nag her about it, but I do want a clean place to live and raise children.
Queenie, is there anything you can suggest that might help?—Neat freak fiancé
Dear Fiancé,
You can offer to help with the housework, especially if your fiancée has a full-time job. Or, if you can afford it, you can offer to hire someone to do the housework – and if your fiancée has a full-time job you can expect her to contribute to the cost.
Dear Queenie,
A while ago someone where I work told me he has feelings for me. I told him several times that I am not interested in him and we have been able to work together as needed, but sometimes things just don’t feel right.
Queenie, is there something more I should do?—Uncomfortable colleague
Dear Colleague,
If your co-worker has not said or done anything more about his feelings for you – it could even be that he has gotten over them – there is nothing more you need to do about it. However, if he does bring up the matter again you may need to have as little as possible to do with him.
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and recently he proposed to me. I am excited about it, but also worried, because I found out he cheated on me a couple of times when we first got together. We worked things out and stayed together and now things are good between us, but sometimes I still worry about what might happen.
Queenie, what do you think?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
Perhaps you are remembering the saying about the leopard not being able to change its spots.
Take a good long time to set a wedding date and in the meantime see how he behaves.
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend likes to go to a certain restaurant that I don’t much like because a long time ago, before we started going together, he had an affair with a girl who used to work there and everyone there remembers him for it even though she doesn’t work there anymore.
He still likes to go there because he likes their food, even though I have asked him to go somewhere else.
Queenie, am I being unreasonable?—His girlfriend now
Dear Girlfriend
If you try to control your boyfriend you probably will only drive him away.
If you like the food at that place, enjoy it and forget about your boyfriend’s past – and let him forget about it too. The only reason for not going to that particular restaurant would be if you do not like their food.
Dear Queenie,
I was dating a wonderful girl for almost a year until suddenly she told me the way she felt about me had changed, so we stopped dating. However, she still calls me sometimes just to chat or asks me to drop by so she won’t be alone.
Queenie, I still feel the same way I always did about her and it’s very confusing.
Should I try to get her to start going with me again?—Ex-boyfriend
Dear Ex-boyfriend,
This girl is treating you like a good friend, not a boyfriend. If that is not enough for you, you will not get over her as long as you keep hoping she has changed her mind, so stop seeing or talking to her entirely and start looking for someone else to fill the role of girlfriend.
