Worried wife

Dear Queenie,

  My husband has been looking at porn on his computer for a long time and seems to be more interested in it than in having real sex with me. When I checked it out on the computer I saw that a lot of the stuff he has been watching is gay porn (men on men).

  Queenie, is my husband actually gay?—Worried wife


Dear Wife,

  Your husband may simply be curious, or he may be bisexual, or he may have finally figured out that he is actually gay. You should have a frank – calm! – conversation with him about this.

  If it is the latter, and you need help coping with the situation, you might find it online at www.straightspouse.org