Stepmother of the groom

Dear Queenie,

  My husband’s son is getting married next year and his fiancée’s parents are planning the wedding. My husband’s ex-wife and her husband are inviting a lot of friends and relatives but we – the groom’s father and his wife – have not been asked if there is anyone we would like to invite and there are some people we would like to have come to the wedding.

  Queenie, would it be okay for us to ask if we can invite a few  people also?—Stepmother of the groom


Dear Stepmother,

  Yes, it would be okay to ask, especially if you are helping to pay for the wedding. If you are not already contributing, you should offer to pay for the guests you want to invite.