Dear Queenie,
My son is divorced and his ex-wife was living with the boyfriend she cheated with when she was married, which caused the divorce, when his daughter, who was living with her mother, told him the boyfriend had molested her. My son called the police and they arrested the boyfriend and he got sent to prison.
The ex-wife stayed in touch with her boyfriend while he was in prison and when he got out she married him. She doesn’t believe he ever molested her daughter.
My son now has custody of their daughter and she has no contact with her mother anymore.
Queenie, should we let her see her mother?—Worried grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
If your granddaughter has no contact with her mother because her father will not permit it, yes, you should let her see her mother – but not her stepfather, the man who molested her! However, if the lack of contact is because her mother does not even try to see her daughter, do not even try to do anything about it.
