Dear Queenie,
I’m planning my wedding and I have a problem because my fiancé and I don’t have the same number of people we want to include as bridesmaids and groomsmen. We both don’t want to leave anyone out, or to have anyone upset because they don’t have anyone to match up with.
Queenie, what do we do?—Worried bride-to-be
Dear Bride-to-be,
It is not a requirement of etiquette that there be the same exact number of groomsmen and bridesmaids and that they be “paired off”. Your attendants can walk separately, or two of the same gender can walk together, and later on any of them can dance with more than one person.
You also can include someone by giving them another honour, such as being an usher or giving a congratulatory speech.
