Dear Queenie,
My son and his family live far away from me. I have spent a lot of money on travelling to visit them and get to know my grandchildren and I always remember everyone’s birthday.
The last time I went to visit them they did not meet me at the airport although they had promised to do so, when I got to their house they didn’t have anything for me to eat, and the room they had for me and their bathroom were messy and dirty and they expected me to clean them up. They left me alone half the time while they went out with friends and the children talked a lot about their relatives on their mom’s side but never said anything about anything we had ever done together or anything they knew about me.
Queenie, what’s the point of my visiting them if they aren’t interested in me?—Vexed Grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
Have you spoken to your son and daughter-in-law (gently, politely!!!) about any of these complaints?
Do not travel to visit them more than you wish to do. You can always stay in touch with your grandchildren (and their parents) by phone calls, text messages, letters, email, Facebook and Skype.
