Dear Queenie,
My brothers and sisters and I don’t get along with each other very well. When our parents died, there was more squabbling among us than mourning for the deceased parent, and I don’t want my husband and children to have go through that kind of thing when I die. I’d rather be cremated and not have a funeral.
Queenie, would that be okay?—Unhappy sibling
Dear Sibling,
I see nothing wrong with what you want. However, it would be a good idea to put your wishes in writing, possibly even have the document notarised, and give copies to your husband and children.
If, when the sad event occurs, your siblings want to make any fuss, your survivor(s) can show them the document to prove that this was what you wanted and forestall any possible squabbling about it.
