We have relatives who like to come and visit us, but because they are on their vacation they don’t do much to help out with the extra work they cause us. We like seeing them, but we wish they would stay for a shorter time and/or somewhere else.
Queenie, we don’t want to hurt their feelings, but what can we do?—Reluctant hosts
Tell them you will be happy to see them, but unfortunately they cannot stay with you, and give them a list of local hotels and guesthouses. And if anyone ends up staying with you, do not be afraid to ask them to help pay for the extra groceries and help with the extra work they cause.