Dear Queenie,
I’m a little bit overweight, maybe about 10 or 15 pounds, but my wife acts like it was about 50 and is always after me to lose more. She says I would lose the weight if I respected her. I did lose some of the fat, but gained it back again because I eat too much when I get upset.
I went for counselling like you always advise, and it helped a little, but she wouldn’t go with me.
Queenie, what more can I do?—Pudgy hubby
Dear Hubby,
Ask your counsellor that question. I suspect he (or she) will tell you it is time to decide whether you want to stay married to this woman, who sounds like a verbal abuser, and maybe the possibility of losing you will shock your wife into getting some counselling for herself and changing her attitude and behaviour.
