Dear Queenie,
When my grandmother died they had her funeral at the same time as I had an interview for a new job. I had been out of work for a while and I really needed that job and there was no way I could re-schedule the interview and if I didn’t show up on time I wouldn’t get the job and they wouldn’t ever consider me for any other job that might come up.
I tried to explain all this to my parents and as soon as the interview was finished (I got the job!) I went to the funeral and nobody said anything about me being so late, but I could tell they were vexed and up to now they still haven’t forgiven me.
Queenie, was I wrong? And how do I make it right?—Grieving grandchild
Dear Grandchild,
I understand why you went for the job interview and I am glad to hear that you got the job, but I also understand why your family is vexed.
You need to apologise to your family, without making any excuses or explanations – they already know why you were so late. Ask them to forgive you and give them time to do so. Remember, they are grieving for your grandmother too.
