Dear Queenie,
A few years ago my wife had too much to drink at a dinner party at a friend’s house and behaved very badly. It was not the first time this had happened and it was not the last.
My friends still invite me to their parties, but not my wife. They tell me to come alone or not come at all, so I go alone, because my friends mean a lot to me. My wife says it’s okay with her, but I don’t feel right about it.
Queenie, what to do?—Going alone
Dear Going alone,
The fact that your wife behaves so badly when she has been drinking is huge evidence that her drinking is a problem. Continue to go to these events without her, but encourage her to get help with her problem. Professional counselling might help her. So could Alcoholics Anonymous – see the Agenda on page 2 of this newspaper for their contact information.
