Fiancé-to-be (I hope!)

Dear Queenie,

  I’m planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me and I’m wondering if I should buy an engagement ring to give her when she says “yes”, or take her afterwards to buy one together so she can choose the one she wants.

  Queenie, what do you say?—Fiancé-to-be (I hope!)

Dear Fiancé-to-be,

  I suggest you visit a jeweller before you pop the question and ask them to set aside several rings in the price range you can afford. Then, if she says “yes”, you can take her to choose the one she likes best, and if she says “no” you will not get an expensive as well as unpleasant surprise.