Dear Queenie,

  My boyfriend and I have been living together for a couple of years now. Sometimes he will open a package that has been delivered that is addressed to me and when I tried to talk to him about this he said it was because he thought it was something for the house so he thought it would be okay.

  Queenie, how can I get him to not do this?—Disrespected


Dear Disrespected,

  You might try pointing out to him that tampering with someone else’s mail is not only disrespectful, it is also illegal.

  You might also start wondering whether he is also checking your phone messages and e-mail.

  As far as the mail is concerned, you could rent a post office box in your name only and have all your mail delivered there. But you should also consider seriously what your boyfriend’s attitude toward your personal mail (and possibly other personal communications) says about your overall relationship with him.