My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Two of our best friends are my best friend since high school and her husband. Recently her husband made a pass at me and tried to get me to have sex with him. Of course I refused and we haven’t seen either of them since.
I told my husband about it and he thinks I should tell her what her husband did, but I’m afraid she will blame me too and it will ruin our friendship.
Queenie, what should I do?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
Whatever you do, there has been damage to your friendship with this couple. Whether you keep this a secret or tell her, it will affect your relationship with your “best friend since high school”.
If you and your husband decide not to say anything to the wife, tell her husband you are still offended, but for his wife’s sake you will forgive him. But make it clear to him that if he ever does anything like this again your friend, his wife, will hear about it right away.