Annoyed mother

Dear Queenie,

  My son lives with his girlfriend in the US and the only way we can keep in touch these days is by phone, but he always puts me on speaker. I’ve never met his girlfriend and I don’t think she should be able to hear everything we talk about.

  Queenie, is it okay for me to ask him not to use the speakerphone?—Annoyed mother

Dear Mother,

  There are always some things that are best kept private. Of course you can ask your son not to use the speakerphone all the time, or at least not when you want to discuss private matters, although maybe just having her hear his side of the conversation might be more than you would wish. Perhaps you could arrange to talk to him, at least sometimes, when his girlfriend is not there.