Dear Editor,
It appears that we are on the verge of defeat, as criminals are consistently testing the complacency of our judiciary system. These law breakers have set this trend for many years and so there is absolutely nothing new under the sun. What is alarming is that criminals have been steadfast with their message of proclaiming who is in control, but our law enforcement has failed to take heed. Now that they are boxed in and sent into frenzy, they are scrambling to find an immediate solution to fix the problem.
In order to curb this enormous challenge, our law enforcement must first acknowledge that it takes guts and a host of underlining influences, to motivate criminals to carry out their illegal activities. Then, they have to identify what is triggering this situation. At a glance, there are a couple of major factors: first of all, to solicit information from the public just like that can never be effective, because the relationship between the community and the police is almost none-existent. As a matter of fact, the majority of police officers do not even say "Good Morning" to the public, so how do they expect the same community to assist them?
Secondly, there is a severe lack of police presence. Officers are not combing the neighbourhoods as expected, and so the criminals are doing it for them. On a very small island, sometimes for a whole month I haven't seen one police officer. I have no idea who is the community officer for my area. When one passes by the police station, it looks like every single police vehicle is parked up.
This situation gives the impression that all the police officers are in the building. Then, of course, criminals will have a field day, because they already monitored the movements of the police. Take notice of the frequency and time of day when these robberies take place. These activities could only occur when there is a serious lack of law officers patrolling our neighbourhoods.
How could the community have full protection when police officers reside in the office? The action is on the outside. That safe feeling that we once had is gone completely and the only way to restore it is for police officers to integrate and connect with the people.
Thirdly, when someone reports a crime, that individual is being interrogated as if he or she is the criminal and so people prefer not to say anything. If the police want information from the public, there must be a better way to process the data and establish a trusting relationship between them and the community.
With regard to the prison, the impression that is created is that lack of personnel is the major cause for the breach of security. Any establishment could be fully staffed and still encounter this kind of problem, because the security of the facility does not depend on the number of personnel, but the quality of that staff.
Furthermore, to recruit more personnel from the Netherlands to help fight crime is not the way to go. Instead, there should be a collaborated effort of all law enforcement agents, to initiate ways to tackle the problem, including investing in the educational development of all prisoners. The emphasis should no longer be placed on housing criminals, but on searching for ways to reduce these illicit activities.
Now more than ever, our ministry of education has to focus heavily on establishing a comprehensive programme that would fit the needs of the inmates to facilitate and complete the rehabilitation process. When prisoners get the opportunity to become occupied in positive ways, they will have little time to engage themselves into more destructive behaviours.
Joslyn Morton
Dear Editor,
It appears that we are on the verge of defeat, as criminals are consistently testing the complacency of our judiciary system. These law breakers have set this trend for many years and so there is absolutely nothing new under the sun. What is alarming is that criminals have been steadfast with their message of proclaiming who is in control, but our law enforcement has failed to take heed. Now that they are boxed in and sent into frenzy, they are scrambling to find an immediate solution to fix the problem.
In order to curb this enormous challenge, our law enforcement must first acknowledge that it takes guts and a host of underlining influences, to motivate criminals to carry out their illegal activities. Then, they have to identify what is triggering this situation. At a glance, there are a couple of major factors: first of all, to solicit information from the public just like that can never be effective, because the relationship between the community and the police is almost none-existent. As a matter of fact, the majority of police officers do not even say "Good Morning" to the public, so how do they expect the same community to assist them?
Secondly, there is a severe lack of police presence. Officers are not combing the neighbourhoods as expected, and so the criminals are doing it for them. On a very small island, sometimes for a whole month I haven't seen one police officer. I have no idea who is the community officer for my area. When one passes by the police station, it looks like every single police vehicle is parked up.
This situation gives the impression that all the police officers are in the building. Then, of course, criminals will have a field day, because they already monitored the movements of the police. Take notice of the frequency and time of day when these robberies take place. These activities could only occur when there is a serious lack of law officers patrolling our neighbourhoods.
How could the community have full protection when police officers reside in the office? The action is on the outside. That safe feeling that we once had is gone completely and the only way to restore it is for police officers to integrate and connect with the people.
Thirdly, when someone reports a crime, that individual is being interrogated as if he or she is the criminal and so people prefer not to say anything. If the police want information from the public, there must be a better way to process the data and establish a trusting relationship between them and the community.
With regard to the prison, the impression that is created is that lack of personnel is the major cause for the breach of security. Any establishment could be fully staffed and still encounter this kind of problem, because the security of the facility does not depend on the number of personnel, but the quality of that staff.
Furthermore, to recruit more personnel from the Netherlands to help fight crime is not the way to go. Instead, there should be a collaborated effort of all law enforcement agents, to initiate ways to tackle the problem, including investing in the educational development of all prisoners. The emphasis should no longer be placed on housing criminals, but on searching for ways to reduce these illicit activities.
Now more than ever, our ministry of education has to focus heavily on establishing a comprehensive programme that would fit the needs of the inmates to facilitate and complete the rehabilitation process. When prisoners get the opportunity to become occupied in positive ways, they will have little time to engage themselves into more destructive behaviours.
Joslyn Morton
Dear Editor,
Mindfulness allows us to bear witness to our experiences. We get an opportunity to watch ourselves and tell ourselves stories on the experience, whether we judge, criticize, lament, etc. We validate that our mind is doing this. Sometimes mindfulness gives us a couple of moments to recognize that we are reacting as opposed to responding to a situation. If we are flooded (emotionally overwhelmed) and can stay with the experience, mindfulness will give us insight to the crux of the matter.
The emotion of shame is a result of not living up to personal ideals, it is a feeling of fear that one isn't good enough and is about to be found out at any moment. Shame shuts down one's growth and any real chance of maturing. It keeps one in the closet; it is enslaving. Shame is felt in the whole body, but particularly in the upper body; the face, shoulder and chest area. Let's say a child going through a growth spurt urinates in bed; an older sibling finds out about it and starts to tease this growing sibling. If the response from the growing child is: "It wasn't me!" Then shame is present.
Shame makes us lie, lie, lie, and then deny, deny, deny (be cautious of overly-stubborn personalities that give no explanation, or that refuse to listen). The more a person practices the I-didn't-do-it" lie; the greater ingrained the feeling of shame. Shame's first and closest cousin is blame, but we'll discuss that another time.
You have overt and covert shame. Overt is the obvious shaming you see in families, classrooms and businesses. The ridiculing and judging that people do to show their superiority over others in the presence of bystanders (spouses in front of children, teachers towards the usual suspects in front of others, bosses wield this around by callously comparing or pointing out inadequacies in front of clients or colleagues.
Covert shame gives one the feeling of being abandoned, neglected, ignored, disconnected and separated from another person or the group (think of the single mothers whose fatherless children (no time/no money/and no support from the society feel). It is 'crazy making' and one of its most troubling effects is that often we aren't aware that shaming is the culprit.
Using shame as a motivational tool may seem effective, as behaviours may change quicker than with kindness. However, it is suppressive by its nature and can cause people to shut down and distrust. It is probably the key ingredient in societies that do not express their dissatisfaction of leadership and therefore will not engage in much-needed conversations and feedback needed for progress. Shaming can be used as a weapon to keep others in check.
Imagine sharing with loved one information about your vulnerabilities to later have that same sacred information used to shame you. Even if an apology is given, it still leaves one feeling distrust in that relationship; shaming comments leave scars. In fact, bullies or abusers are extremely 'shame-prone' (though they have high self-esteem) they are just afraid that they may be exposed.
In her books Daring Greatly and The gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, who is lead researcher in shame and empathy says, "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.
"Love is not something we give or get; it is something we nurture and grow a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them— we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare." The opposite of shame, says Brene, is wholeheartedness; however, one would first have to start exploring 'shame-resilience' to get to wholeheartedness.
Brene's explanation of shame resilience is the ability to practice authenticity when we experience shame, to move through the experience without sacrificing our values, and to come out on the other side of the shame experience with more courage, compassion, and connection than we had going into it. Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy— the real antidote to shame. The usual response for men to shame is: pissed off or shut down. In relationships, women usually are provocative and up on their high horse, when they feel shamed by neglect or invalidated. (I could go on about this but...)
Calling all parents, teachers, caretakers, leaders, etc. to end shaming. When I was growing up, there was a glass/crystal shop in town, I remember seeing "the lady of shame" head bent, hands hiding her face. I can still hear Milicent de Weever muttering that she didn't want her in her house. After all these years, I now understand why shame is something we should avoid making a habit of and to be mindful when it's in the room.
There are many systems (schools/businesses/even coaches) that use toxic shame to keep operations going, however, the reactions of students and employees are climaxing; shaming is making people mentally unwell. We need to rethink this strategy and start addressing methods that are causing more harm than good in our societies. Let's be mindful about using shame to manipulate.
Debbie Zwanikken
Dear Editor,
Mindfulness allows us to bear witness to our experiences. We get an opportunity to watch ourselves and tell ourselves stories on the experience, whether we judge, criticize, lament, etc. We validate that our mind is doing this. Sometimes mindfulness gives us a couple of moments to recognize that we are reacting as opposed to responding to a situation. If we are flooded (emotionally overwhelmed) and can stay with the experience, mindfulness will give us insight to the crux of the matter.
The emotion of shame is a result of not living up to personal ideals, it is a feeling of fear that one isn't good enough and is about to be found out at any moment. Shame shuts down one's growth and any real chance of maturing. It keeps one in the closet; it is enslaving. Shame is felt in the whole body, but particularly in the upper body; the face, shoulder and chest area. Let's say a child going through a growth spurt urinates in bed; an older sibling finds out about it and starts to tease this growing sibling. If the response from the growing child is: "It wasn't me!" Then shame is present.
Shame makes us lie, lie, lie, and then deny, deny, deny (be cautious of overly-stubborn personalities that give no explanation, or that refuse to listen). The more a person practices the I-didn't-do-it" lie; the greater ingrained the feeling of shame. Shame's first and closest cousin is blame, but we'll discuss that another time.
You have overt and covert shame. Overt is the obvious shaming you see in families, classrooms and businesses. The ridiculing and judging that people do to show their superiority over others in the presence of bystanders (spouses in front of children, teachers towards the usual suspects in front of others, bosses wield this around by callously comparing or pointing out inadequacies in front of clients or colleagues.
Covert shame gives one the feeling of being abandoned, neglected, ignored, disconnected and separated from another person or the group (think of the single mothers whose fatherless children (no time/no money/and no support from the society feel). It is 'crazy making' and one of its most troubling effects is that often we aren't aware that shaming is the culprit.
Using shame as a motivational tool may seem effective, as behaviours may change quicker than with kindness. However, it is suppressive by its nature and can cause people to shut down and distrust. It is probably the key ingredient in societies that do not express their dissatisfaction of leadership and therefore will not engage in much-needed conversations and feedback needed for progress. Shaming can be used as a weapon to keep others in check.
Imagine sharing with loved one information about your vulnerabilities to later have that same sacred information used to shame you. Even if an apology is given, it still leaves one feeling distrust in that relationship; shaming comments leave scars. In fact, bullies or abusers are extremely 'shame-prone' (though they have high self-esteem) they are just afraid that they may be exposed.
In her books Daring Greatly and The gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, who is lead researcher in shame and empathy says, "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.
"Love is not something we give or get; it is something we nurture and grow a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them— we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare." The opposite of shame, says Brene, is wholeheartedness; however, one would first have to start exploring 'shame-resilience' to get to wholeheartedness.
Brene's explanation of shame resilience is the ability to practice authenticity when we experience shame, to move through the experience without sacrificing our values, and to come out on the other side of the shame experience with more courage, compassion, and connection than we had going into it. Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy— the real antidote to shame. The usual response for men to shame is: pissed off or shut down. In relationships, women usually are provocative and up on their high horse, when they feel shamed by neglect or invalidated. (I could go on about this but...)
Calling all parents, teachers, caretakers, leaders, etc. to end shaming. When I was growing up, there was a glass/crystal shop in town, I remember seeing "the lady of shame" head bent, hands hiding her face. I can still hear Milicent de Weever muttering that she didn't want her in her house. After all these years, I now understand why shame is something we should avoid making a habit of and to be mindful when it's in the room.
There are many systems (schools/businesses/even coaches) that use toxic shame to keep operations going, however, the reactions of students and employees are climaxing; shaming is making people mentally unwell. We need to rethink this strategy and start addressing methods that are causing more harm than good in our societies. Let's be mindful about using shame to manipulate.
Debbie Zwanikken
Dear Editor,
It seems as if everyone tends to agree or raise their hands above their heads when it comes down to "what about when so and so did this or did that?" And then there was this in the editorial "the disturbing trend unfortunately can be seen throughout all sectors." The behaviour in traffic was mentioned as an example and I could not agree more, but permit me to remind your readers how too many of those who were vying for office expressed themselves during the recent held political campaign. Instead of choosing the high road too often the low road was chosen in reacting to each other's allegations. To add to all this Minister Lake in preparing for his legal defence in the notorious land deal sums up a series of projects executed by government before or during his tenure which if I understand correctly, were not addressed in the same way his land deal blunder was addressed. (Being right is not always good).
Just as we would hope for the grown-ups in the community to be an example to the youth, more so we expect our leaders in government to be role models. Minister Lake was being hypocritical, because instead of saying I will not follow that wrong trend of government, he went back to basics, using those mentioned projects as armour to justify his eventual future wrong. Permit me to remind not alone Minister Lake but whoever, no matter what. If you dig two holes, one of those holes will remain yours. By now one should know that this is not against the person of Maurice Lake, because I like the good gentleman, but being a Minister of government he is in debt to the people and I am part of the people so I react to things that I believe government is not doing right.
Sitting in one's living room and making observations is different than openly voicing ones opinion. Does Minister Lake then want to imply that focus should be on the armed robbers alone and that government officials should be permitted to wheel and deal at random with the people's patrimony. Terms like white colour and blue colour come to mind. Robbers rob. Government Ministers take an oath to serve and are being well paid to do so. I do not understand the comparison. What I know is that one should be careful in thinking that "I did not physically commit the act," because there are terms like "knowingly" and "by association" etc., which could still change the procedure. By the way if there was no reaction to that strange land deal, would Mr. Lake have kept his silence concerning those "dubious" projects of the past? Not good.
The lack of integrity by leaders in government again comes into play here. Again not helping to encourage peace among the youth. Nobody has to pick on us, we are constantly supplying ammunition for them to use against us. It is easy to do the right thing. The same effort you make to get up every day to go to work is the same type of effort you can use to refuse to do negative things and after a while it becomes natural and you even get in the habit of apologizing when you think you said or did the wrong thing. It is still so that two wrongs do not make a right. The letters of the word PEACE could stand for several things I would simply like for them to stand for Positive Encouragement And Comprehensive Education.
Russell A. Simmons
