Dear Queenie,

My daughter just got divorced. Her ex-husband is a nice guy and I like him very much, but she doesn’t want me to have anything to do with him any more.

Queenie, I love my daughter, but I don’t like what she wants me to do. What do you think I should (or should not) do?—Ex-mother-in-law

Dear Ex-mother-in-law,

If your daughter had children with this man he is still their father and you are still their grandmother, so it would be good to maintain a civil relationship with him for the children’s sake. Otherwise, your decision will depend on what your daughter will do if you do not abide by her wishes.

Dear Queenie,

I was dating a man for a while and then I stopped seeing him, but he kept sending me text messages and driving past my house.

Then a friend of mine said she had a new boyfriend who turned out to be my ex, who keeps on sending me texts and pictures and driving past my house.

If I tell my friend about all this she will just think I’m jealous, and I’m afraid to spend any time with her because he might show up and I don’t want to see him.

Queenie, what can I do?—Confused and worried

Dear Confused and worried,

If you show your friend the texts this man sends you, hopefully she will not think you are jealous. And if you can get pictures of him driving by your house you can go to the police with them and the texts and pictures he sends you and ask them to try to stop him, maybe with a restraining order.

Dear Queenie,

I’ve been dating a woman for several months and her little son has started calling me “Daddy”, but his mother and I haven’t been getting along with each other very well and I’m thinking of breaking up with her, but I’ll miss being her son’s “Daddy”.

Queenie, what should I do?—Daddy but not husband

Dear Not husband,

You should be in love with, or at least care deeply for, the person you marry. The best thing you can do is break up with this woman. But be sure to tell her son what is going to happen and make sure he understands that it does not have anything to do with him or your feelings for him.

Dear Queenie,

A long time ago a man raped me. I told my sister about it but not anyone else. Years later I saw that man at a social event of my sister and I told her he was the one who had raped me. She said he was her husband’s business contact and he seemed normal to her. After that I saw him at my sister’s house again, but then he moved away.

However, recently he came back and my sister and her family continue to socialize with him.

Queenie, how can I handle this?—Offended rape victim

Dear Offended,

Limit contact with your sister to occasions when and where you know this man will not be present. And professional counselling could still help you, even after all this time.