Dear Queenie,

I have lost most of my loved ones because of illness or accidents or just old age. My wife and the friends and relatives I have left have helped me get through it all, but I find it upsetting when I hear other people complain about their family or friends about little things.

Queenie, at times like that should I remind them how lucky they are to still have their friend or loved one?—Mourning my losses

Dear Mourning,

You could, but unless you are ready to discuss your situation with them in detail it is not likely that the persons about whom you complain will change what they do.

Dear Queenie,

I work in a restaurant and part of my job is to fill the customers’ water glasses, but lots of them leave their smart phones on the table where water might drip or spill on their phone.

Queenie, please advise your readers to be more careful with their phones.—Worried waitress

Dear Waitress,

Here is the warning you have requested. But until your customers become less careless, you must be very, very careful.

Dear Queenie,

My husband was the executor of his father’s will, but he did not share things equally with his brothers and sisters.

Queenie, should I tell the ones who got less than the others? Could my husband be convicted for fraud?—Worried wife

Dear Wife,

Your husband is not likely to be sent to prison, but his siblings who got less could sue him. Tell your husband that you are going to tell his siblings what he did and he should make things right before the ones who got less take him to civil court.

Dear Queenie,

When I retired from working I stopped shaving every day. Now I only shave when I go out for some social event.

My problem is my wife thinks the way I look reflects my feelings for her and she is vexed with me about it.

Queenie, I love her very much. How can I make her feel better about this?—Shaggy husband

Dear Shaggy husband,

Shave every day.