Dear Queenie,
I have always wanted to move away from here and I have been planning to do so, but my girlfriend likes it here and doesn’t want to go. She doesn’t even like to travel. So I have stayed here.
Now I have a chance to go away, but my girlfriend isn’t interested. My family thinks she is holding me back and I should go, but she does make me happy.
Queenie, should I go without her or stay for her sake?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
Your family is right. If you do not take this chance, you may be stuck where you are forever. Under those circumstances, how long will you be happy with your stick-in-the mud girlfriend?
Dear Queenie,
My sister is dating a man who works for me and he is trying to act like one of the family. This is no problem for me at work, but at family events it is different. He tries to help out and it doesn’t matter to him if anyone objects.
Queenie, I don’t want to make a scene, but what can I do?—Older brother
Dear Brother,
Relax. What he is doing does not reflect on you. If anyone else objects they can let him know – politely, I hope. Meanwhile, accept the situation and try to stay calm.
Dear Queenie,
I’ve been dating a woman for several months and her little son has started calling me “Daddy”, but his mother and I haven’t been getting along with each other very well and I’m thinking of breaking up with her, but I’ll miss being her son’s “Daddy”.
Queenie, what should I do?—Daddy but not husband
Dear Not husband,
You should be in love with, or at least care deeply for, the person you marry. The best thing you can do is break up with this woman. But be sure to tell her son what is going to happen and make sure he understands that it does not have anything to do with him or your feelings for him.
Dear Queenie,
My daughter just got divorced. Her ex-husband is a nice guy and I like him very much, but she doesn’t want me to have anything to do with him any more.
Queenie, I love my daughter, but I don’t like what she wants me to do. What do you think I should (or should not) do?—Ex-mother-in-law
Dear Ex-mother-in-law,
If your daughter had children with this man he is still their father and you are still their grandmother, so it would be good to maintain a civil relationship with him for the children’s sake. Otherwise, your decision will depend on what your daughter will do if you do not abide by her wishes.
Dear Queenie,
I was dating a man for a while and then I stopped seeing him, but he kept sending me text messages and driving past my house.
Then a friend of mine said she had a new boyfriend who turned out to be my ex, who keeps on sending me texts and pictures and driving past my house.
If I tell my friend about all this she will just think I’m jealous, and I’m afraid to spend any time with her because he might show up and I don’t want to see him.
Queenie, what can I do?—Confused and worried
Dear Confused and worried,
If you show your friend the texts this man sends you, hopefully she will not think you are jealous. And if you can get pictures of him driving by your house you can go to the police with them and the texts and pictures he sends you and ask them to try to stop him, maybe with a restraining order.
