Dear Queenie,

I have a chronic condition that there is no cure for and when people find out about it they always make some comment about it.

Queenie, what’s a good way to respond?—Fed up

Dear Fed up,

If the comment is sympathetic or a compliment, thank them. If it is a suggestion about how to cure yourself, thank them and tell them that is up to your doctor. And if they say it is “all in your head,” just ignore them.

Dear Queenie,

I keep my cell phone locked, not that there is anything there for my wife to find, but she is not “doing her job” and if she ever tried to snoop on my phone I would end our marriage.

Queenie, what do you say about all this?—Faithful reader

Dear Faithful reader,

I feel sorry for your wife, and I thank you for reading my column.

Dear Queenie,

My daughter is almost in her teens and is thinking about having a boyfriend, but I want her to wait until she is older. Meanwhile, she is hanging out with a bunch of girls who keep getting in trouble and I want her to keep away from them.

Queenie, what do you advise?—Worried mother

Dear Mother,

Keep your daughter busy with out-of school activities like sports, scouting, music and/or art, and make sure she does not have time to spend with people you do not approve of.

Dear Queenie,

I’ve been going for four years with a man who was married before, but both he and his wife had outside affairs and they finally got divorced.

He is in counselling and he claims he would not do all that again, but one time when he got drunk he had sex with a woman who came on to him. He admitted it and regrets it and he swears he would never do it again and since then he has been faithful to me and he wants us to get married, but I have my doubts.

Queenie, do you think I can trust him?—Confused

Dear Confused,

All relationships require trust in one another and this man is trying to prove that you can trust him, but he still might cheat if the two of you start having problems.

Do not make any commitment to him until you are sure you are ready for it.