Dear Queenie,
Firstly, thank you for the work that you do.
My question to you is that I have a friend who says she doesn’t want to be around my fiance, that whenever we link up to not bring him around. When I asked her give me one good reason why, she replied saying she “doesn't take his spirit, he seems un-geniune."
To me that's disrespectful of her, but I don’t know if it's disrespectful and I don’t know what my next plan of action should be in regard to this.
Queenie, please help.—Detoxifying
Dear Detoxifying,
Firstly, thank you for your words of appreciation.
My answer to you is that it is not necessarily disrespectful of your friend to not like your fiance. If she does not like him, see her without him and do not try to bring them together.
However, if you trust your friend’s judgement, you might ask her (and yourself) what she finds “un-genuine” about him.
Dear Queenie,
I like to go out and do things and try new things to do, but my wife just always wants to stay at home.
Queenie, what do you suggest for us?—Discontented husband
Dear Husband,
Ideally you and your wife would do things together. However, if she is unwilling and you are not content with her behaviour, perhaps a marriage counsellor would help the two of you enjoy your life together better.
Dear Queenie,
My husband was the executor of his father’s will, but he did not share things equally with his brothers and sisters.
Queenie, should I tell the ones who got less than the others? Could my husband be convicted for fraud?—Worried wife
Dear Wife,
Your husband is not likely to be sent to prison, but his siblings who got less could sue him. Tell your husband that you are going to tell his siblings what he did and he should make things right before the ones who got less take him to civil court.
Dear Queenie,
I have lost most of my loved ones because of illness or accidents or just old age. My wife and the friends and relatives I have left have helped me get through it all, but I find it upsetting when I hear other people complain about their family or friends about little things.
Queenie, at times like that should I remind them how lucky they are to still have their friend or loved one?—Mourning my losses
Dear Mourning,
You could, but unless you are ready to discuss your situation with them in detail it is not likely that the persons about whom you complain will change what they do.
Dear Queenie,
I work in a restaurant and part of my job is to fill the customers’ water glasses, but lots of them leave their smart phones on the table where water might drip or spill on their phone.
Queenie, please advise your readers to be more careful with their phones.—Worried waitress
Dear Waitress,
Here is the warning you have requested. But until your customers become less careless, you must be very, very careful.
