Dear Queenie,
I have a friend who has gained a lot of weight recently. She is still wearing the same clothes as ever and they are much too tight and she looks terrible, as if she is going to bust out of them any minute.
Queenie, should I say something to her?—June is busting out all over’s friend
Dear June’s friend,
Why not suggest a shopping expedition for new clothes? A good look at herself in a full-length mirror might be enlightening for June and you can try to guide her toward sizes and styles that she will look good in.
Dear Queenie,
Lately I’ve noticed that my girlfriend tends to avoid kissing me on the mouth. She didn’t used to, but recently it’s gotten kind of obvious.
Queenie, what’s the matter with her?—KIssless
Dear KIssless,
It may not be a matter of what is wrong with her so much as what is wrong with you. Do you smoke? Are you careful about oral hygiene? Do you have some other condition that causes bad breath?
Ask your girlfriend about this and listen carefully to her answer.
Dear Queenie,
I don’t have any trouble getting dates and I go out with lots of women, but I’m not interested in any sort of long-term commitment.
Queenie, when do I tell a woman I’m not looking to get serious?—Philanderer
Dear Philanderer,
As soon as you can reasonably mention it. Certainly before you try to have sex with her, which I am guessing is mainly what you want from a woman.
Dear Queenie,
If a couple gets divorced and then one of them dies, is the ex-spouse supposed to be mentioned in the deceased’s obituary?—Obituary Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
Usually, no.
However, if they remained on good terms and it would be a comfort to the surviving family members, I suppose it would not be wrong to give the ex a mention.
Dear Queenie,
I’m taller than my girlfriend, but I’m so skinny that I weigh less than she does. She comments about this sometimes and I get the impression that I make her feel fat, even though she has a marvellous figure and isn’t the least bit overweight.
Queenie, do you think she will get over this hang-up?—The Thin Man
Dear Thin Man,
Women seem to have evolved to prefer men who are bigger (read heavier as well as taller) than they are. Try to gain some weight and, while you are about it, do some exercising that will turn the new weight into muscles, not fat.
Your doctor or a nutritionist can recommend an appropriate diet and a professional trainer can recommend the appropriate exercises.
