Dear Queenie,
My son is entering the same profession as mine and sometimes he cones to me for advice. A colleague says I should not be helping him because he has to learn to stand on his own two feet.
Queenie, it’s not like I tell him what to do, I just try to lead him into figuring things out for himself. Am I doing something wrong?—Proud father
Dear Father,
It is normal for people who are just entering a profession to consult with experts. In this case the expert is a close relative, which makes things a bit tricky. Just make sure you are not feeding your son the answers to his questions/problems rather than pointing the way toward finding them for himself.
Dear Queenie,
Recently I met up with this guy I used to date in high school and we started going together again, He had gotten married and then divorced in the meantime but he says he was always in love with me and now he wants to marry me.
However, up to now I haven’t even met his children, let alone got to know them. He is very close to them and as far as I can see he is a great father. They must know about me because he has a picture of me on his nightstand, so why can’t I meet them?
Queenie, what do you think?—Impatient
Dear Impatient,
I think you are being too patient. It is time to start wondering if this guy is really divorced or just stringing you along.
Dear Queenie,
My son’s wife is constantly busy doing something on her cell phone when she is visiting us. The last time her children got into a fight and she didn’t even notice and I had to calm them down.
When I spoke to her about it later she told my son I was being rude.
Queenie, was she right?—Angry mother-in-law
Dear Mother-in-law,
No!
Cell phone use, especially the Internet, can be addictive, but that is not excuse for neglecting one’s children.
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend is a very religious church-goer. I believe in God and I’m of the same faith, but I don’t go to church very often.
Queenie, is this a deal-breaker?—Worried girlfriend
Dear, Girlfriend
It could be, if your boyfriend cannot accept your attitude toward religion. You and he need to have a serious conversation (or more than one) on the subject.
Dear Queenie,
I’m in my 50s and I’ve been dating a much younger man. We have been sleeping together but we are both dating other (but not sleeping with them). We are in love and he said he would marry me if I wasn’t so much older than he is. It’s not that he wants children, he just feels funny about the age difference.
Queenie, should I wait until he feels better about it? Or what should I do?—Cougar in love
Dear Cougar,
He is in love with you, but not willing to marry a much older woman. If you can live happily with him in your life, but not as your husband, go for it. If you cannot, end it.
