Worried son

Dear Queenie,

  My mother is in her 70s and claims to have several ailments that keep her from going out of the house. All she ever wants to talk about is what is wrong with her.

  I know she may not be totally healthy, but staying in all the time and not getting any exercise can’t be good for her.

  Queenie, how can I help her?—Worried son

Dear Son,

  Do not try to get your mother to take care of herself the way you would like her to do. See to it that she sees her doctor – go with her if you can arrange to do so – and gets tested, and treated if necessary, for whatever she thinks is wrong with her.

  And if there is a programme in the community that you think she would enjoy, offer to take her there and to participate with her.