Unexcited boyfriend

Dear Queenie,

  My girlfriend has big – I mean BIG – breasts and she has a habit of walking around without a shirt or bra. I guess she thinks it turns me on, but actually seeing her that way turns me off.

  Queenie, should I say something to her about it? I don’t want to insult her. What should I say?—Unexcited boyfriend  

Dear Boyfriend,

  Do not tell your girlfriend that you find her big breasts a turn-off. Just tell her – gently! – that they do not turn you on. And if she ever needs (or opts for) breast surgery, suggest that she go for reduction rather than maintaining the status quo or even enlargement.