Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. I would like to do it, but his house has pictures everywhere of his wife, who died many years ago.
I know he feels great sorrow over that loss, especially because she was sick for some time before she died and he was away on business when she finally passed away, so I have never said anything about this before, but it would be just too much for me to have to live with.
Queenie, what do you suggest?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
Tell him the pictures are a problem for you, and apparently they indicate he has a problem as well and perhaps would benefit from professional counselling to deal with the problem – and with all the pictures.
It might also be a good idea for the two of you to find a new place to live together, because even without all the pictures on display his house must be full of memories of his late wife, which would make things uncomfortable for both of you.
