Offended Grampa

Dear Queenie,

  We have a grandson who lives on another island. He never calls us or e-mails us, even though we send him gifts and have helped him out financially on occasion.

  Queenie, what is the matter with young people these days? Or are we expecting too much of him?—Offended Grampa


Dear Grampa,

  Some young adults tend to take members of their family for granted. I suspect your grandson will get in touch with you the next time he needs financial help. But there is no excuse for not sending some sort of “thank you” message when he receives a gift, so feel free not to send any more gifts until you hear from him – and then not unless he thanks you for whatever you send.