Dear Queenie,
Someone I used to be best friends with used to go after any man I was interested in. One time I found out she had been sleeping with my boyfriend and I forgave her even though I broke up with him.
Another time we went to a party together and the hostess introduced me to a man she thought I would like and my friend started talking to him too. I told her I would step aside if she really liked him and she yelled at me and ran away crying and later we had a big fight about it.
After that we weren’t friends anymore and she went around telling our other friends mean things about me that just weren’t true and they believed her.
Queenie, I don’t miss my ex-best friend, but I do miss the others. What can I do?—Lonesome woman
Dear Lonesome woman,
Those others must not have known you very well, or were not very good friends, if they believed what your ex-besty told them about you.
Consider yourself well rid of a “friend” who would treat you that way, and start looking for ways to keep occupied and meet new people who could become your new friends. Join a church group or a special interest club, do volunteer work with a hospital, library, or service organisation, and look to make friends with like-minded people.
