Dear Queenie,
My ex-boyfriend cheated on me and after I broke up with him he married the woman he cheated with. I got married too and things have been going good, but then over the holidays my mother-in-law invited my ex-boyfriend and his wife to what I thought was going to be a family dinner. She said it was because she felt sorry for them because they didn’t have anywhere else to go.
I explained to my husband and my mother-in-law that I didn’t feel comfortable about this, because my ex never treated me very well and I thought the only reason he wanted to be there was to check up on me, but they said I was just making a big fuss over a very small matter.
Queenie, are they being unreasonable or am I?—Disgusted wife
Dear Wife,
I do not think you are being unreasonable. Your mother-in-law had no thought for your feelings in the matter when she invited your ex to what should have been a family affair without at least asking you how you would feel about it. And I have to wonder how it is that your m-i-l knows your ex at all, never mind inviting him to her home.
