Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend doesn’t tell me he loves me very often, in fact hardly ever. He says that anyone can say the words and not really mean what they say and I should be able to tell that he loves me by the way he treats me and all the things he does for me.
Queenie, I don’t want to push him on this, but how often should I be able to hear the words – and how often should I say them?—Confused girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
Your boyfriend has a point about the difference between what someone says and how they behave. You should be able to tell how he feels about you from the way he treats you.
Also, you should be able to tell from his reaction when you say the words whether you are saying them too often for his comfort – and make sure that you treat him in a way that shows him how much you care.
