Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We have a lot of the same interests and values except for one thing – I want children and he does not.
If we stay together I will never have children, but if I break up with him I might never find anyone as perfect for me as he is who does want children.
Queenie, please help me decide what to do.—Can’t make a decision
Dear Can’t decide,
I cannot tell you what you should do, but I must point out that there are a lot of things you have to consider here. If you had married this man and only then found out he did not want children, would you have divorced him?
And, the older you get the harder it is to conceive a child. If you break up with him it may take you quite a while to find someone you think is as perfect as your present boyfriend – if you ever do – and who wants children. And even if that comes to pass, there is no guarantee that you will be able to conceive.
But beyond pointing out these factors, I cannot tell you what to do. You will have to make that decision yourself.
