Many years ago my husband cheated on me with a woman he worked with. The affair ended when she moved away, and I got him to go to counselling with me, but he only went once and then said everything was all right with us.
Last year she got in touch with him again and I found out they were planning to meet up this summer, but that didn’t go through because of all the COVID-19 restrictions, but they still stayed in touch. We did go to counselling again, but he stopped going after the counsellor said he had betrayed me.
He insists that it is all over between them, but I suspect that is only because they can’t get together because of all the travel restrictions.
Queenie, what do you think?—Betrayed wife
He might be telling you the truth, but as you suspect, it may only be because of all the COVID-19 restrictions, which could be only a temporary matter.
You cannot force your husband to go for counselling, but you can continue to go yourself to get help deciding what you are willing to put up with, and how to deal with whatever you decide to do about it.