Dear Queenie,
I’ve been going for four years with a man who was married before, but both he and his wife had outside affairs and they finally got divorced.
He is in counselling and he claims he would not do all that again, but one time when he got drunk he had sex with a woman who came on to him. He admitted it and regrets it and he swears he would never do it again and since then he has been faithful to me and he wants us to get married, but I have my doubts.
Queenie, do you think I can trust him?—Confused
Dear Confused,
All relationships require trust in one another and this man is trying to prove that you can trust him, but he still might cheat if the two of you start having problems.
Do not make any commitment to him until you are sure you are ready for it.
Dear Queenie,
I was married to an abusive husband and I thought about leaving him, but I stayed because we had 2 children.
Now I know that was a mistake, because they grew up thinking an abusive situation was a normal way to live.
Queenie, please print this as a warning to your other readers.—Waited too long
Dear Waited too long,
Here it is. Thank you for writing to me.
Dear Queenie,
I have an Internet boyfriend but I don’t think we’ll ever be together in person. Meanwhile, I’ve met a man I really like.
Queenie, I don’t want to break up with my Internet boyfriend but I like this guy too. What should I do?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
You can stay friends with your Internet “boyfriend” but if there is little or no chance you will ever be together in person, consider him a “friend”, not a “boyfriend”.
Something more may develop if you ever meet up with your Internet friend in person, but meanwhile give both of you the chance for an in-person romance.
Dear Queenie,
What kind of gift should you give someone when you visit them for a special event or to stay for a few days?—Confused guest
Dear Guest,
Candy would be nice (as long as the friend is not on a diet), or other non-fattening food, or picture frames, or stationery and envelopes. Or, while you are there, keep an eye out for something they might like or need and get it for them.
Dear Queenie,
My children are all grown up and have good jobs and at every special event I give them money plus a personal item.
Queenie, is there anything else I should be doing?—Their father
Dear Father,
The gifts may be nice, but it is the time you spend with your children that really matters. I hope you are also giving them that gift too.
