Dear Queenie,

  My wife died about a year ago after we were married for more than 30 years. Recently I met a lovely widow and I have fallen in love with her, but she thinks I am just lonely and looking to replace my late wife.

  Queenie, how can I make her believe that we should not let our memories get in the way of our future happiness together?—Widower in love


Dear Widower,

  Your lady friend may be right that you are lonely and mistaking companionship for love. Take time to let things develop and you both will know whether your relationship is the real thing.