Dear Queenie,

  My parents were very strict with me when I was in high school. I had a strict curfew, couldn’t date anyone unless my parents met him and approved of him, and I couldn’t drink.

  My husband’s parents let him stay out all night, drink until he got drunk and even do drugs.

  Now my husband says when we have children the girl(s) will be raised like I was, but the boy(s) will be raised like him.

  He says he turned out okay, but I say a lot of bad things could have happened to him.

  Queenie, how do I tell him this without saying how stupid his parents were?—Worried mother-to-be


Dear Mother-to-be,

  Your husband’s attitude goes against all good advice on parenting. All children, boys and girls alike, need discipline and fair restrictions.

  If your husband will not listen to you, get counselling from a paediatrician and/or a good child psychologist – preferably before you have any children.