Dear Queenie,

  My brother and I have never been able to get along with each other and whenever we are in the same room with each other it gets to be an argument. I would like to at least be able to visit my parents and have a family get-together but it always turns unpleasant.

  I have children and I wouldn’t like it if things were this way between them.

  Queenie, is there any way to fix this?—Brotherly unlove


Dear Brotherly unlove,

  Professional counselling might help you and your brother work out your differences, or learn to be at least civil to each other. But if you cannot get him to go, or if counselling does not work out, I am sure your parents would prefer to have the two of you visit them separately.