Dear Queenie,

  My boyfriend is godfather to his brother’s children. One time at a family dinner the wife was very affectionate toward my boyfriend and he told me later that he had had sex with her one time before she married his brother, but just that once.

  He says he loves me and wants us to get married and spend the rest of our lives together, but I can’t get over the fact that he is still friendly with this woman and she makes it obvious that she has feelings for him even though she is married to someone else.

  Queenie, what do you think?—Confused girlfriend  


Dear Girlfriend,

  Your boyfriend has been honest with you and not tried to hide anything about this woman, but as he is her children’s godfather he will always be in contact with her.

  Pre-marital counselling would help you decide whether you think you can trust him and, if so, help you find ways to deal with her. If you can get your boyfriend to go with you, so much the better.